The Spotless Mind and Relationships

I just watched a movie called: “Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind”.
In it a man wants to erase the memories of his girlfriend, he goes to see her and she doesn’t recognize him at all. He finds out that she has erased memories of him. Once he finds out he too has his memories of her erased.

Now imagine if you will if that were possible.

I’ve been in a lot of relationships, and I will tell you many of them really needed to be erased!
Or do they. There are very few people who are as qualified as I am for knowing what a broken heart is. I know there are many levels of broken heart syndrome, I’ve had most of them.
I’ve had many relationships that have lasted longer than three years, and something tells me I’ll probably have many more, but imagine what it would be like if you could erase your memory of an ex.

I know the pain of waking up, relizing that your significant other is no longer by your side. I know what it feels like to be cast aside, as though you have no value, I know what it feels like to be left for another, and I definetly know what it feels like to wake up besides your significant other and relize that you no longer love her.

I see the pictures of me and my exes and remember a laugh we shared, a moment of joy, and the moment that it was over. I understand there are only a few things that I I’ve been grateful to not have experienced. Even in that case I’m not sure that a memory erasure would be warranted.
Life is so strange, one minute your as happy as you can be, or one minute your miserable and it doesn’t get any better. Time heals all wounds, they tell you, you’ll be fine, just take one day at a time.

Lets go back to erasing the memories of an ex, sounds pretty good doesn’t it? No more staring at a picture and seeing someone you once loved. No songs to remember them by, no places where the two of you used to go,it’s all gone.

Now think for a minute. What if everyone in the world did that, no one feeling sorrow of loss, no feelings of heartbreak. What a terrible world we would live in.

It is the experience of that relationship that teaches you, gives you the strength, molds you into the person you are today. And at the risk of sounding optimistic, I believe that all my failed relationships have taught me who I am, not how little I matter, not how worthless I am.
I love the person that I am, if I had those memories erased I would never remember the mistakes I made, and that lessens the chance of becoming better.

Our experiences shape us and make us the people we are, without them, we would never strive to be better, especially in intimate relationships.
I wish I never met(Fill in name here)!

I know I’ve said that in the past, now I say:
“We were together, but it’s over now, I’ve moved on.”
Heartache is a part of life, like taxes and death, it’s how we handle it that defines who we are.

Once again thanks for reading, take care.

JF